MANIFESTING_TECHNIQUE
Changing Attitude Towards a Boss/Colleague
This technique involves deliberately changing one's internal attitude and perception towards a difficult boss or colleague. Instead of reacting to their…
Step by step
- Identify a challenging relationship with a boss or colleague.
- Instead of focusing on their current negative behavior, imagine them seeing you in a positive, desired way (e.g., helpful, praiseworthy, deserving of a raise).
- Contemplate what it would be like if they had already acted in this desired way (e.g., praised your work, increased your salary).
- As you go about your day, especially when thinking of them, adopt and persist in the attitude that this desired outcome has already occurred.
- Avoid negative discussions or reflections about their current behavior.
- Maintain this internal attitude consistently, knowing it will produce a corresponding change in them and your external world.
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Seedtime And Harvest
This technique involves deliberately changing one's internal attitude and perception towards a difficult boss or colleague. Instead of reacting to their current behavior, one imagines and feels the reality of them seeing you in a positive light, praising your work, or granting a desired outcome (like a raise). This internal shift is maintained persistently.
In your office, does the boss act in a rude way towards you? Well then what would it be like if he now saw in me the lady, the helpful person that I really am, or want to be. Suppose he saw in me someone he could praise for my work and raise me in the salary world, give me an increase in salary because of my added effort; suppose he could see that in me, well, contemplate the boss seeing that in you as though he saw it and rewarded you with an increase. That moment is the moment of planting. It may not come tonight, it may not even come this week in the paycheck, but it will come. You simply keep on planting the lovely things; but if every day when you leave the office you say, "What a skinflint", and you go home and you discuss him with your mother or your husband or someone else, and they sympathize because they really believe you, for they are playing the same reflective, negative approach to life; but if as you ride home or walk home, you walk in the attitude that he had done it - he had increased your income, he had praised your work, and day after day, in spite of other things to the contrary, you persist in it, do you know he will do it? You will produce in him the change of heart because you first produced it in yourself, and he will see in you qualities that he cannot now see, and then your whole vast world begins to blossom - you do it in every sense of the word.
By persistently holding the internal attitude that the boss has already changed and recognized your worth, you 'plant the seed' that will produce a change of heart in them, causing them to see and respond to the qualities you have assumed within yourself.